It is no coincidence that I was just talking about how I am so busy that I can’t put it into words and when people ask me “what’s new with you?” all that I can say is “Eh, not much…” Mainly, because I am quite sure when most people ask this question they are not prepared for the answers to follow when you ask someone like me. Well, either that or they will just think I am lying about everything that I have been up to! Lucky for me, she was willing to listen and knows me well enough that none of it would surprise her!
When I got back to work, I did a little gratitude check that I learned from one of my lessons on a website called Happify. The “exercise” asks you to take stock of everything that you squeeze into a busy day and then to think about how you would feel if all of those things were to disappear. What three things would I miss? Now, every day is different in my world. You just never know what is going to come up next, but this is an account of 3 things that have the tendency to take up most of my time…. And to be completely honest, it immediately changed my perspective.
So what were my three things you ask? The three things that drive me so crazy I could scream sometimes? My Family, My Job, & Laundry… Let me explain.
My family. Although family can be the biggest stressor in one’s “busy” life, I can’t imagine not having a smiling face to pick up from school or to wake up in the morning and make HIM smile. (He is like his mother, NOT a morning person) My Husband is my rock and my sounding board. Plus, I can’t imagine sleeping alone without tons of cuddles.
Work. While I commend stay at home moms greatly, I cannot imagine life without my job. I truly enjoy what I do! Okay, so my job can get a little frustrating and stressful at times, but it is also what pays our bills and keeps my mind working. My job is really a life-line when dealing with depression attacks. I don’t have the option to lie in bed when I am down. I have to get up. I have to get dressed. I have to be there for our clients.
Laundry. Yep, I am admitting it. Now, if you live with me (or are my best friend) you KNOW that I despise laundry. Not so much the act of putting clothes into the washer and over to the dryer, that’s the easy part. The folding of the laundry is what frustrates me. Why, oh why, haven’t they invented a laundry folder yet?! My husband is a farmer so there is at LEAST 2 changes of clothes a day, and then the kids (or kids, depending on the time of the year), and then of course me… But, I am grateful for laundry. I am well aware that we are blessed to have the opportunity to accumulate piles of laundry instead of one outfit. Our family is extremely fortunate.
So, I guess this whole happiness thing is really about perspective. Am I going to let that person upset me, or am I just going to hold my tongue and walk away? Am I going to let the ugly attitudes of this world rub off on me, or will I choose to be around happy people with positive energy? Will I look at everything that happens to me day by day and see the bad, or will I choose to be grateful that I am even in a position in this world where these things could happen… and be grateful that they happened?
My sweet friend Paige over at PeaceFotos took some BEAUTIFUL pictures for me in December. Looking back through, I cannot believe how my sweet babies have changed over the past few years. My how time flies!
Click on the picture and it will take you to Paige’s Facebook page for her photography.
“You need to pray,” she said. “Set your alarm,” she said.
So I did. I set an alarm on my phone. For a 552. For the next two weeks.
I am doing it. I will make it. Life is just that, life. We have to learn to take life on life’s terms. Resentments have to go by the wayside. I am learning to forgive, I am learning to get over it, and I am learning to pray.
You don’t know what a 552 is? On page 552 of the 4th volume of the “Big Book”, you will find these words.
‘If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free. Even when you don’t really want it for them and your prayers are only words and you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it everyday for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate, understanding and love.’
It worked for me then, and it has worked for me many times since, and it will work for me every time I am willing to work it. Sometimes I have to ask first for the willingness, but it always comes. And because it works for me, it will work for all of us. As another great man says, ‘The only real freedom a human being can ever know is doing what you ought to do because you want to do it.'”
So, my adorable little munchkin is talking. And by talking I mean he never shuts up. Which I LOVE. It’s interesting to see how a two year old’s brain works. I don’t know about you, but I don’t remember a word I said when I was two.
The Hudster and I were out in the yard feeding the animals and I pinched my finger in the gate letting out a yelp. This was when his newly learned grammar skills came into play. I know he meant well, but meaning to say “what’s the matter mommy?” He instead says “what’s your problem mommy?” Haha I couldn’t help but laugh. He didn’t understand and I tried to explain, but it just didn’t make a lick of sense to him. He will more than likely continue to use his little words the wrong way and I will continue to get a little chuckle.
These are the days I have to cherish as a mom. Even if my kid sounds like a jerk when his sentences come out wrong. 😉
A few weeks ago I received the best gift a mom with out a dishwasher could ask for when I came home from work! I had a Influenster box at my door with THREE full size Palmolive Fresh Infusions bottles in it. The first thought was that they were awesomely packaged! Nice sleek bottles with nice (and pretty) bright colors! Next was a pretty important test, “do they smell good?” YES!!!! oh my goodness it was like washing my dishes with fresh fruits and herbs! The aroma lasted the entire time I washed my big sink of dishes.
And, drumroll, the MOST important part……. Does it clean? I had read mixed reviews with whether or not the fancy packaged dish liquid cleaned or not, and to my surprise, it really did well! It cleaned the lasagna mess of a two year old! Others have said it doesn’t get the grease off, but I like to go pretty liberally with my dish liquid, so maybe that is why it worked so well.
As an added bonus, (and one of the main reasons I have ALWAYS used Palmolive) it was great on my hands. Without a dishwasher, I wash dishes 2, 3, sometimes even 4 times a day, so it is important to me that the soap I use doesn’t dry out my hands, especially during the winter.
So, my ultimate thought on the new Palmolive Fresh Infusions Product? I LOVE IT!
I found it at Target for a bundle of 3 for $8.97 (click on the price to take you straight to it) and since the product is new, there are coupons everywhere for up to $1.50 off! You can go HERE for a $.50 coupon to start you off! My favorite is the Ginger White Tea, but they are all truly amazing!!! Thank you Influenster!
Today was truly a beautiful day. It was spent with family and friends celebrating life and love. Our day started out with a birthday for our niece, who just turned 1. Which was so fun at the flintriverquarium. The kids had a blast (and quite honestly the adults did too). Then, we went to a birthday party for one of my best friends daughters, who just turned 14.
All of the events really got me thinking about how fast time goes when it comes to children. I mean, in all actuality it goes no faster with them than it does for us, but they just grow up so fast. For instance, it feels like our sweet little chunky monkey niece was just born yesterday. Where in the heck does the time go? Tomorrow she will be a year old!! And my best friends daughter just turned 14. While we have not known each other for that long, we have talked a lot and I feel like I have known her forever. When she told me her daughters birthday was coming up, she said the same thing. “Candice, where did the time go??? She is not supposed to be a teenager.” The fact of the matter is, kids grow up, time doesn’t stop for you to replay the times you missed, and you gotta love those babies every chance you get.
In another moment today, I saw a family friend who is battling breast cancer. She is in the early stages of the fight, but I have no doubt she will make it through as a strong woman and a beautiful story. Her attitude was beautiful and she radiated with hope and love. It got me thinking again though, you never know what’s around the corner. She didn’t wake up and decide she was going to start a struggle for her life against this evil thing called cancer. Nobody knows what will happen to them the next day. Life is too short to sit on the porch and watch it go by.
My son will be 3 years old this year and it feels like I just had him. Life moves too fast and children grow entirely too quickly. I have found myself doing things with the Hudster that I normally wouldn’t do because it would take another 30 minutes, Or because it would cost an extra five bucks. These are the days I can’t get back. These are the days that move too fast. My plan is to enjoy them and make the best of the time I have with my son. Yes, it drives me crazy some time when he says “mommy!!!!” A hundred times in a row and asks me a million questions, but there will come a day when he hits puberty that he will “know everything” and doesn’t want to talk to me, so I will do my best to make new memories and appreciate every moment that I have. I hope you will do the same.
So, for my New Year’s resolutions, I chose to be happy and organized. Sounds pretty simple, right? I am desperately trying to work on the organized part, but the happy part really isn’t all that hard…. It’s all about how you look at things. It is in the way you look at things.It is all about accepting things the way they are and working your way around them.
As I walked into the office today everyone had their “I hate this place, I’m sick of
this job, it’s only Tuesday, woe is me, come kill me now” attitudes on already. People, it’s a beautiful day to be alive. Be GLAD you are alive, because we almost weren’t. I should have been dead about 27 times by now due to extremely stupid decisions in my adolescence.
Maybe I’m being too optimistic here, but is it too much to just be happy that we have a job? That we were able to get out of bed and come to our jobs? Please make an effort to be the light in a dark place. One of my resolutions was to be happier. In everything. YES, I am exhausted. No, I do not just adore my job everyday. however, in all honesty, it’s really not hard. All I have done has been to change my attitude a little and learn acceptance.
“When I am disturbed it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation- some fact of my life- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.” BB pg 417
Today I choose to smile and be happy! How about you?
It’s that time again. Time for us to go out with the old and in with the new. time for smiles, love, and laughter.
I stopped last night to think about all that has happened over the past year, and I couldn’t help but smile. I am truly blessed to have the life I do and to be surrounded with such wonderful people.My life is truly wonderful.
So here’s to a look back over 2012…… I moved in to a home with the most wonderful man in the world, I spent the beginning of the year planning for a beautiful wedding, I continued with my education, continued my employment at the DA’s office, made “grown-up” decisions, MARRIED the most wonderful man in the world, flew to Puerto Rico for a week, My beloved little man turned two, I was fortunate to host a state wide conference for an anonymous group of young folks, I began a side job making the world classy one pearl at a time(Serene Antiquities), I grew closer with friends and family, turned another year older, turned 3 in sobriety years, grew a garden with my hubby, and kept flowers alive for longer than a week. There were MILLIONS of other amazing moments in this past year, but we would be here forever and you would get bored 🙂 so, I’ll stop there.
I catch myself complaining a lot, but in all honesty, I have NOTHING to complain about. My life is beautiful and it grows more everyday as do I. I can’t imagine my life without my wonderful support system and my family. I am truly blessed. I will be ending this year with an attitude of gratitude. I couldn’t think of a better way.
I am almost there folks! As of tomorrow evening I will be one semester away from graduation.
Sure. I know what you’re thinking. “She’s 27 and just now graduating college with an Associate’s degree?”
Well, technically 2 degrees and a certificate. You see, I hit a few bumps in the road and had some major growing up to do along the way. I have had several majors throughout my college career as well! Music, Art, radiology, addiction therapist, are just a few. Believe it or not, I could go to school for another year and probably get at least two more but after this whole full-time wife/mother/employee/student deal I have been doing for the past 2 years, I am OVER it.
I will say, however, I am extremely proud of myself. 4 years ago, I did not care about classes or sticking to a schedule, I couldn’t keep a job, and dang sure would have never pictured myself as a mother. I have come a long way. So, next May I am walking across that stage, picking up my diploma and kissing the school world goodbye. At least for now.
I truly surprise myself sometimes though. Never in a million years would I have thought I would be going back to school for a degree that I never finished,(Plus one more) Let alone the fact that I would actually be working IN the District Attorney’s Office. Life is beautiful now. I have my Shitty rougher days… but I always come out learning something, or wake up the next morning with an attitude that I am going to conquer the world. I am a very lucky lady with a wonderful supportive family. I count myself as blessed, even if I don’t always admit it.
In the end, I guess the point I am trying to get across in all the ramble is that I am extremely grateful that I was afforded the opportunity to start fresh and more importantly finish what I started. Life is good.
One of my friends on Facebook had this title as their status and I found it quite hilarious!
This has been a beautiful day! Quite possibly the best birthday ever. I had a little time to myself today ( I know, crazy right?!) and I realized something. I have the most AMAZING people in my life. From my parents, hubby and children to my coworkers, friends and strangers. That’s right. Strangers. I had the most interesting conversations with people I have never met before in my life.
What was different from people I see any other day, you ask? Well, let me share. Today, I took half a day off of work. I decided to be selfish (it’s a personal defect of mine that comes out sometimes) and take some time for myself and justslow down! I know! Huge concept right? Seriously though, I have been so busy with work, school(getting ready for
Exams), home and all the animals that live there (that explanation is for another day), being a mother, and just trying to keep myself alive in all of the craziness. So, today as I walked out into the world when I left work, I stopped myself and told myself, “self, you are going to slow down, smile, and enjoy this day.” and I did just that! Instead of rushing around, I talked to the person next to me in line. Instead of rushing through the door, I held it open for the next person coming in. I went to see several friends just because I could. I slowed down. It was beautiful.
Perspective is a beautiful thing. If you stop and intentionally proceed with a smile on your face and in good spirits, you are guaranteed to have the best day of your life and I did just that. This 27th year of my life I have promised myself that I will allow nothing but beautiful days full of gratitude. What if we could all stop and change our perspective? The world would be an amazing place to live. I have so much to be grateful for, sometimes I just have to stop and remind myself.