It is no coincidence that I was just talking about how I am so busy that I can’t put it into words and when people ask me “what’s new with you?” all that I can say is “Eh, not much…” Mainly, because I am quite sure when most people ask this question they are not prepared for the answers to follow when you ask someone like me. Well, either that or they will just think I am lying about everything that I have been up to! Lucky for me, she was willing to listen and knows me well enough that none of it would surprise her!
When I got back to work, I did a little gratitude check that I learned from one of my lessons on a website called Happify. The “exercise” asks you to take stock of everything that you squeeze into a busy day and then to think about how you would feel if all of those things were to disappear. What three things would I miss? Now, every day is different in my world. You just never know what is going to come up next, but this is an account of 3 things that have the tendency to take up most of my time…. And to be completely honest, it immediately changed my perspective.
So what were my three things you ask? The three things that drive me so crazy I could scream sometimes? My Family, My Job, & Laundry… Let me explain.
- My family. Although family can be the biggest stressor in one’s “busy” life, I can’t imagine not having a smiling face to pick up from school or to wake up in the morning and make HIM smile. (He is like his mother, NOT a morning person) My Husband is my rock and my sounding board. Plus, I can’t imagine sleeping alone without tons of cuddles.
- Work. While I commend stay at home moms greatly, I cannot imagine life without my job. I truly enjoy what I do! Okay, so my job can get a little frustrating and stressful at times, but it is also what pays our bills and keeps my mind working. My job is really a life-line when dealing with depression attacks. I don’t have the option to lie in bed when I am down. I have to get up. I have to get dressed. I have to be there for our clients.
- Laundry. Yep, I am admitting it. Now, if you live with me (or are my best friend) you KNOW that I despise laundry. Not so much the act of putting clothes into the washer and over to the dryer, that’s the easy part. The folding of the laundry is what frustrates me. Why, oh why, haven’t they invented a laundry folder yet?! My husband is a farmer so there is at LEAST 2 changes of clothes a day, and then the kids (or kids, depending on the time of the year), and then of course me… But, I am grateful for laundry. I am well aware that we are blessed to have the opportunity to accumulate piles of laundry instead of one outfit. Our family is extremely fortunate.
So, I guess this whole happiness thing is really about perspective. Am I going to let that person upset me, or am I just going to hold my tongue and walk away? Am I going to let the ugly attitudes of this world rub off on me, or will I choose to be around happy people with positive energy? Will I look at everything that happens to me day by day and see the bad, or will I choose to be grateful that I am even in a position in this world where these things could happen… and be grateful that they happened?